What Is MGTOW? It means viewing life from perspective that puts men and their positive traits on first place. For example their community highly encourages not getting married and to focus on their own way, dreams, aims, and so on instead.
While I absolutely love their full name (Men Going Their Own Way), I neither don’t really hate women, nor I want to spend my lifetime alone.
They reason their thinking by mentioning great inventors who didn’t get married such as:
- Nikola Tesla,
- Sir Isaac Newton.
And more. Certain people indeed invented great things because they didn’t spend lifetime with their wives. The more time you spend alone brainstorming and tryharding, the more likely you are to success at whatever you are doing. That’s exactly right.
However these famous men weren’t a part of MGTOW. Or at least not consciously. They apparently didn’t need cool acronym and/or some internet forum community to know that they are lone wolfs.
Is it good or not?
To make it clear, I do not devalue nor favor any side here. It’s absolutely natural to spend a lifetime with partner, and while our biology is more directed at polygamy (multiple partners) than monogamy (single partner), I feel absolutely fine spending my life with the love of my life (assuming I will find someone like that).
While it may sound like some Beta/White Knight/Oneitis talk to the more experienced readers, it’s absolutely not as shallow as it might be perceived.
I’m not into “monk mode”, nor into being alone whole life, nor into hooking up with random girls at the age of 40/50 just because marriages more often than not cause men to have financial problems, mental breakdown, feeling of wasted time and/or of being betrayed, and so on. That however, doesn’t mean I don’t understand hypergamy.
Main reasons why people identify themselves with MGTOW:
- Financial reasons and alimony, law problems.
- Being cheated on regardless of the amount of investment they put in the marriage.
- Essence of hypergamy, which instructs women to always hunt for males with biggest SMV (Sexual Market Value), even when they are in marriage. Or, on the other side, looking for most financially stable partner to ensure safe future for her and their children.
Where’s the proof for that?!
This is a great example of how women and men are valued in court when it’s word vs word. Story in short, they both agreed for sex, and then she sued him for having bruises on her body. Regardless of what he said in his defence, he was convicted with sexual assault.
I’m not sure if it’s just me, but most of my ex girlfriends had very vulnerable bodies, so the bruises were there every time we meet (but I didn’t beat them obviously, they just happened). Same thing was said in court, but with no effect.
Are you MGTOW?
As I outlined before, I am absolutely not MGTOW and I want to grow old with partner, as well as I want to marry someone, but I do understand some of their points.